春水堂视频

March 31, 2020

UCalgary chaplains on finding joy and peace in isolation

Meaningful connection in the time of coronavirus
Spirituality online
Spirituality online

A priest, a rabbi and a monk walk into a 鈥 wait a minute: the bar鈥檚 closed. Indeed, it is, as are the classrooms, fitness centre, coffee shops and, it seems, all of our most meaningful places on campus. Nevertheless, there are still deep pockets of (virtual) connection available at聽UCalgary聽during this collectively challenging time. The Faith and Spirituality Centre may or may not be your usual cup of tea, but five campus chaplains prove there are many paths to higher love in the time of coronavirus.

Danielle聽Braitman, Jewish (Hillel) representative聽

鈥淚t鈥檚 a high-stress time for everybody. There鈥檚 an old Yiddish proverb we can stick to quite firmly in times like this: We鈥檙e going to 鈥榟ope for the best and plan for the worst.鈥 A lot of students are living at home, but they鈥檙e missing their usual social connections in an effort to stay physically distant from everyone else. I鈥檓 setting up Netflix-watching parties for students and the community. We鈥檙e watching movies chosen by students, with Jewish content to fit with our programming, and then we鈥檒l discuss them together online. Our first pick is聽The Awakening of Motti聽Wolkenbruch. My biggest focus is connecting 鈥 just letting students know they鈥檙e not alone."

We聽will聽get through this and come out stronger on the other side because, well, we have to 鈥 there鈥檚 no other option.聽

Paul聽Verhoef, Christian (Christian Reformed) chaplain聽

鈥淚鈥檝e found that, in some ways, this time has offered a helpful change of structure and pace for many people. I normally meet with a small group of students in person on Fridays. We share a contemplative practice connected to, though not always rooted deeply in, Christianity. This week, we met via Zoom and simply shared how it鈥檚 going with one another.聽There鈥檚 some stress, of course.聽Students wonder about the loss of a graduation ceremony, the loss of a final face-to-face goodbye with friends before everyone scatters. And they recognize that the economy is in trouble.鈥疊ut some students are also experiencing the goodness of this isolating time.鈥疭taying home can be a gift in that it allows learning at their own pace; some are finding joy in using technology in a new way 鈥 FaceTime can provide deep聽connection with friends. Together, we talked about this disruption in the normal as a moment to open the imagination and shape new possibilities."鈥

We wondered if we might hold more space after this moment, provide more flexibility in how things get done, and renew our understanding of what we value.鈥

Sandra聽Brask, Bah鈥檌 representative聽

鈥淚 saw a photo of a shipment of medical supplies heading from China to Italy. There was a note on the crate with a picture of a Chinese flag in one corner and an Italian flag in the other, and it read: 鈥淲e are waves of the same sea, leaves of the same tree, flowers of the same garden.鈥 That鈥檚 a quote from Baha鈥檌 scripture and the essence of Baha鈥檌 teachings. It鈥檚 about universal love, selfless service, the world as one country.聽These kinds of actions 鈥 helping others 鈥 this is what sustains my faith and encourages me to wipe away my tears and go forward with confidence and courage."

I once read that when Fred Rogers was a boy, and saw scary things in the news, his mother would tell him to look for the helpers, that he鈥檇 always find people who are helping. I love that. Let聽us聽be the helpers. This is what will bring true joy and calm.聽

Imam聽Fayaz聽Tilly, Muslim (Sunni) chaplain聽

鈥淚 found a poem that says we can think of this not as a time of self-isolation, but of self-discovery. That resonated with me. This is an opportunity to look at our priorities again. It鈥檚 a chance to congregate in our聽hearts, support one another and pray for one another. I was amazed to connect online with nearly 900 people at my last Friday prayer session 鈥 far more than could come in person normally. I鈥檝e found joy in being able to do all five daily prayers with my family because we鈥檙e at home together. And, along with my wife, Noureen (Noureen Tilly is also a聽UCalgary聽chaplain), we鈥檙e seeing the laughing, crying faces of family and friends all over the world on video chat 鈥 loved ones we haven鈥檛 seen in years. We feel compelled, as a lot of people do, to go beyond the usual quick check-in to more intimate waters."

The world isn鈥檛 going to be the same after this, and I think it might move us toward deeper, more genuine care.聽

Ken Madden, Buddhist (unaffiliated) chaplain聽

鈥淎s human beings we鈥檙e not islands unto ourselves 鈥 even when we鈥檙e self-isolating. Buddhist teachings include an element of the 鈥榮angha,鈥 which is community. We need that. My other job is in IT, so I鈥檝e been able to pivot quickly in terms of getting online meditation sessions going for our community. It鈥檚 been great: lots of additional students and others joining in who wouldn鈥檛 otherwise have been able to attend in person regularly. The perspective I teach from is that we don鈥檛 come to meditation to be better Buddhists; we come to get tools to let our better lives arise. At this time, when maybe we鈥檙e starting to worry, we can stay with our breath, stay in the present moment, follow our breath for a while, and let the past and the future float by."

In person we鈥檇 drink tea after meditation, but online we can just chat or drop off whenever we like. This is a full-love, no-pressure, no-judgment zone.聽

Connect聽with online prayer sessions, meditation and other upcoming events; you鈥檒l also find individual contact information for each of these chaplains and聽others.聽

Photo at the top of this article by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash.

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